This article was originally written in November of 2010 for my personal blog. Thank you for reading!


Hello again. Thank you for stopping by. My, you sure look nice! What are you all dressed up for? You didn’t know I had a camera mounted in your room, did you? Oh shucks, calm down. I can’t see anything but the words I’m typing on this page.

Onto business…

I’m not one to really window shop. If I can’t afford it, I don’t want to spend my time wishing I had it and walk away sad that I don’t. I only go to the store if I’m in need of something, but I DO have one exception. Puppies! Just like children, it will be years before I have a little doggy of my own. I’ve already set my mind on a Pug. I want one just like the “Men in Black” costar with the smooth tan fur, deepset black face, and swirly pig tail. I lovingly call them “smashed face dogs” since it looks as though they’ve run into a wall at full speed.

I was pretty convinced a Pug would be my final choice, but I keep seeing other smashed face dogs of different breeds with weird names like Puggie-Poo and so on. I think they’re just mating random kinds of dogs these days. The pet store my husband Jerrell and I usually go to has a pretty sad collection of dogs with clumped up fur and crazy features that look like they just got shoveled off of the surrounding streets and dropped in one of the cages.

Very rarely does a puppy catch my eye long enough to get a ten minute visit, but the one I saw today made it hard to even leave the store. I don’t know what it is, but she reminded me of an old woman who’s had her share of glory days and now walks around with globs of mascara, caked on eyeliner and a disheveled wig. She would barely give me the time of day–I’m sure it’s due to the fact that so many humans seem interested by cooing and tapping on the glass only to leave her alone at the end of the day.

I think it’s interesting that animals can be bought and sold like this. Put on display for weeks in hopes that someone will adopt them. It must be a sad life. It’s similar to humans who are just waiting to catch the fancy of some guy or girl in passing and trying to get picked up by a mate who is worthy of them. Ultimately, they lose their zest and lay in a corner refusing to be evoked of the emotions they ran out of. Just when they feel apsolutely hopeless, the right owner–or soulmate in this case–releases their funds–or love in this case–in order to spend the rest of their lives together.

One of my favorite scriptures comes from Song of Solomon 2:7.

“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”

By dating just for the fun of it, we get so caught up in the excitement of flirtation and love that we run out of it and become jaded by the relationships that we were not supposed to have in the first place.

Believe me, I’ve had my share of those experiences, but it wasn’t until I got engaged that I knew what that scripture truly meant. Finding your soulmate is difficult enough, but actually taming the emotions and urges that come with falling in love is close to impossible. This is because love isn’t supposed to be “tame”. It’s our greatest gift to eachother, and I believe it’s supposed to be organic and wild…when you’re READY. That is, if you’re trying to hold out until marriage and save yourself for that ONE person.

This is why I encourage single men and women to be patient. No matter your age, race, or gender someone has been searching for you possibly half of their entire life! The timing of meeting them might not be right today and they won’t be able to provide what you need at this point, but in the meantime please enjoy the freedom that you are privileged with. Believe me, you have a looooong time to be married and all sales are final!

I hope this was encouraging to you, I had no idea that I would be writing on this. See what a cute puppy can do?

In Love,

-Kytia L’amour