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Promo Tuesday with Couples Academy

Promo Tuesdays is where we highlight our brothers and sisters who are moving through ministry and small business while spreading the gospel as the Lord leads. Please support them by checking out their website and social media.

Once in a while, my church would have an event called “The Marriage Encounter”. In a way, it was like a group couple’s therapy where married church members would come and ask questions about the ins and outs of intimacy, in-laws, raising children, infidelity, you name it. A few of those times we would have a session with Hasani and Danielle Pettiford of The Couples Academy. I always looked forward to their insight, and am so glad I can follow them online through their website and social media in order to keep getting that objective and educated advice about marriage. Even if you’re not married yet, now might be the best time to discover some great tools that will help you in the future. You may be surprised to know how the habits and relationships you have now will affect your future spouse for good…or for bad. The best part about this for me is that their advice comes from a biblical foundation because my faith is the number one aspect of my world view. I hope you are blessed by their knowledge and the information they freely give. Let me know what you think! Continue reading “Promo Tuesday with Couples Academy”

How I Knew My Husband Was “The One”

I’ve been asked this question so many times by close friends and practical strangers: “How did you know your husband was the one you were supposed to marry?” A common answer–and I agree with this–is “When you know, you know.” There is a definite moment where it just clicks and you both realize “This is for forever.” It’s a concept that’s hard to grasp, and although I felt Jerrell was my future husband the first time we sat down alone and talked for hours, even I needed some reassurance.

It wasn’t until I took my romance to God that I really felt beyond a shadow of a doubt that it was time to prepare for marriage. As much as one could. Just like having kids, you never ever feel ready to be a husband or wife. You couldn’t possibly because there’s no way to rehearse it. I’ve even talked to couples who had lived together for years and felt like marriage was just a piece of paper, but once they tied the knot the experience and the security was noticeably different. Continue reading “How I Knew My Husband Was “The One””

Promo Tuesday with Team Married

Promo Tuesdays is where we highlight our brothers and sisters who are moving through ministry and small business while spreading the gospel as the Lord leads. Please support them by checking out their website and social media.

If you ask any married couple about their relationship, they will tell you that it’s a lot of work. Successful marriages–and relationships in general–don’t just happen, they are cultivated. Something that is very important to me and my husband is finding other married friends who are committed to a healthy relationship, and who are willing to share the ups and downs of their journey and pray for our future as a couple. Tremell and Capitola Parker are a wonderful couple that we’ve been blessed to know for years. I could go on and on about the Godly advice they’ve given us and countless other married folk, but I’d rather you see for yourself. Watch the above video and others on their YouTube channel, and you’re sure to be blessed whether you’re single, dating, happily married, or hitting a rough patch. They’ve covered parenthood, date nights, fighting fair, celibacy, infidelity, and the important fellowship, among other things. Continue reading “Promo Tuesday with Team Married”

Dating with Intention

Can you imagine being a 17 year old girl and deciding that dating was “not for you”? I’ve talked to many people about the span of five years in my life that I chose not to date, but I thought it would be a good idea to expound upon that subject. I had a few boyfriends before I made this decision. I later realized that I chose to date those guys mostly because they pursued me, and my friends thought that I “should” date them because we were cute together or because I needed a boyfriend.

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Questions to Ask Before Walking Down the Aisle

We’re doing a series on dating and relationships. Join the conversation! Are there any specific topics you’d like us to write about? (This article was originally written in December of 2015 for Project Inspired, a website that encourages Christian teenage girls all over the world. Thank you for reading!)

So you’ve found the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. You have similar interests, you both love the Lord and you’re head over heels for your guy. What more do you need to know before you walk down the aisle?

A lot, actually. Just like a job interview, an employer would want to know that his or her prospective employee is properly qualified to fill the position.

Yes, it can be awkward to ask things you don’t really feel you have the right to know, but if you’re truly going to spend the rest of your lives together, there are some things you should inquire about in order to start off on the right foot. Premarital counseling will help with some of these, but not every couple goes though an intensive session that uncovers possible conflict-causing topics. You can ask these over dinner, during a walk at your favorite park or over the phone if that seems to cause less pressure and anxiety. Continue reading “Questions to Ask Before Walking Down the Aisle”

Why Wait to Have Sex Until Marriage?

We’re doing a series on dating and relationships. Join the conversation! Are there any specific topics you’d like us to write about? (This article was originally written in July of 2015 for Project Inspired, a website that encourages Christian teenage girls all over the world. Thank you for reading!)

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. (1 Corinthians 6:18)

I waited until I was married to have sex. In fact, I wore a purity ring for years that was eventually replaced by my engagement ring because I was sure that decision was the right one for me. It’s important to make this choice for yourself and not judge other people who haven’t done the same. I definitely had the desire to be intimate, as any young woman with a pulse might, so I was constantly asked why I was saving my virginity for my future husband.

This subject is a very personal one, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation for whatever you choose to do. However, if you feel the need to respond, it’s best to do it with the spotlight on yourself and your personal convictions instead of simply saying “Everyone should do this because God wants us to.” Keeping God’s commands is very important, but it’s also good to know and share the benefits of abiding by His word. Continue reading “Why Wait to Have Sex Until Marriage?”

Keeping Christ in Your Relationship

We’re doing a series on dating and relationships. Join the conversation! Are there any specific topics you’d like us to write about? (This article was originally written in July of 2015 for Project Inspired, a website that encourages Christian teenage girls all over the world. Thank you for reading!)

When my now-husband and I were in the beginning stages of dating, we made great decisions and unfortunate mistakes that have helped us to be where we are now. I’m always up for an opportunity to share a window into that timeline to explain what worked for us and what we should have avoided as we tried to keep God at the center of our relationship. We took courtship seriously, and once we had the title of “boyfriend and girlfriend” it was after we knew marriage was our end goal.

Any attraction comes with temptation, and our journey was no different. It’s important to be on the same page with someone you think might be your future spouse so that you can be in agreement on how to tackle the trial and error of falling in love. Whether or not you have a storybook romance, God is there to help you navigate through the confusion to eventually create your happy ending. Continue reading “Keeping Christ in Your Relationship”

Is it Love or Lust?

We’re doing a series on dating and relationships. Join the conversation! Are there any specific topics you’d like us to write about? (This article was originally written in November of 2015 for Project Inspired, a website that encourages Christian teenage girls all over the world. Thank you for reading!)

Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right. (Song of Solomon 8:4)

Simply reading through the Songs of Solomon might get your palms sweaty, as it’s one of the most racy books in the Word. It’s a preview into the account of lovers, but with its message are several warnings. It’s important not to get caught up in the race to third base because you can miss out on the true importance of romantic and platonic relationships. Continue reading “Is it Love or Lust?”

Funny Friday: Christian Mingle Inspector

God has a sense of humor and so do we. Let’s get the weekend started with a good laugh!

Christian Mingle, the popular Christian dating website, employs standup comedian John Crist to approve or reject applicants to their website. Note: This video is a joke.

In Love,

-L’amour In Christ

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